Thoughts For Thought (other opinions and stuff)

Water of tides drawn
by lunar light,
your blood, still in my veins
churns more heavily pulled
by Heaven’s light.

I’ve had plenty of reason to reflect on this topic in the last couple of days…

One thing I’ve learned from watching inexperienced or bad parents is that they force their kids to respect them and they don’t respect their kids. They tend to forget that kids do grow up and will remember their childhood. They may oppress their kids for a time but the child does not forget with their memory magically wiped clear when they turn into an adult.

How can a child be expected to listen to a parent when that parent won’t listen to the child?

Parents who try to keep their teens away from everyone so they can force them to remain at home are not promoting a good relationship. In a few short years, the child will break free of the oppressive cage and for once, the parent will not be able to force their own will upon that child. Maybe then, when it is too late, they will wake up to the fact that a child is actually more than a trained animal or a trophy.

Oh but of course, it will be someone else’s fault for the strained relationship when that day comes….Always someone else’s fault, besides their own….

Wow! It’s really been since last November that I was last here? So much has gone on since then…

One of the things is joining Facebook last August after my daughter signed up. I never figured that to be my cup of tea and still feel undecided. For instance, I am NOT a group type of person and get out of those in a heartbeat or two. I’m not into throwing pearls out to be trampled upon. And the place seems to be ripe for misunderstandings, especially among the insecure or those paranoid (maybe with a guilty conscious?) It’s not a comfortable place to vent either.

On the other hand, it’s a great way to keep in touch with real friends, and I love being able to post pictures and see them from my friends. Plus, I love being able to share thoughts regarding parental grief since that’s the route my life has taken since my beloved son was killed and by now I have a bit of expertise on the subject.

Anyway, I’m back here, remembering I even have a blog…lol Over 100 comments to approve or decline, I may just leave them all out as I’m not sure which are actually spam and which are genuine. I love the ease of writing here for myself and venting because of the anonomity and knowing that no one really reads my blog (which is why I chose to be here in the first place…drama free).

Tonight marks 156 weeks of Wednesdays – the night of the week my son was killed on.  That translates to three years of weeks, although the date of three years, officially going into the fourth year, will not begin until the 28th.

But tonight, for my beloved son, Blake:

***holding my heart up to the heavens, taken out from where it belongs, for you to take****

Dec.ember 27
Nov.ember 28.
Two days, two embers
that will forever burn a fire in my heart.

Following are some of the sentiments left for Blake after his death, accumulated from posters, cards, the banners, and comments left at MySpace. There are 200+ saved and printed-out pages from which I’ve excerpted portions of for Blake’s memorial DVD and now, here for safe-keeping. No words can really express how heart-warming the sentiments are to me.

  ”…BLAKE WAS ONE OF THE NICEST, CARING, COOL PEOPLE I’VE EVER MET IN MY LIFE. HE WAS ONE OF THE MOST WONDERFUL PEOPLE HERE AND HE WOULD DO ALMOST ANYTHING FOR ANYONE! I MISS HIM AND LOVE HIM SO MUCH…”

 ”Blake, You’re so awesome! I miss your happy go luckyness….You have shined your light so far and so bright. Thank you! I love you and you’ll never leave my heart.  Love always”

 ”…I can’t thank you enough for being my friend. One of the biggest highlights of my life was being yours. You always saw the best in everyone. I love you like a brother, man”

“Dude Blake you were one of the funniest, nicest, genuinely warm-hearted people I’ve ever met in my life…You really made an impact on my life….I really felt like you were one of the best friends I’ve ever had…”

“…he was the best friend anyone could ask for. he was always there for anybody and loved everybody….”

 ”…You were really a good person, and I want everybody to know that I’m not just saying that because you’re dead. You were really one of the best people I’ve ever known. Even when you were going through a lot of drama you never once ever really got mad or talked **** about anybody, you even joked about most of your problems and what you were going through…”

 ”…R.I.P. Blake I love you dude and I’ll never forget you, you didn’t deserve this. It really sucks that something like this had to happen to somebody as carefree and nice as you….Blake Ingles the guy that was always in a good mood and could always make me laugh…”

“…I love you Blake. You changed my life so much. You taught me to believe in myself when no one believed in me and for that I am grateful. You will always be in my heart Blake.”

 ”…you were always the one that kinda added caution to what we did ya know. if i could i would trade places in a heartbeat… you were the best of us and never failed to see the good in everyone no matter what thier flaws. i wish there could be more people in this world like you, but you were truely one in a billion. i miss you man ..”

 ”You were my true friend, you were somebody that I considered a brother…”

 ”…he was an awesome guy….”

 ”…. His smile was something I will never forget. He was always happy. He taught me to love my life and love myself…. He was so carefree and loved everyone. I really try everyday to be like him and not to worry and be happy. And I wish so much that he could be here to see… ”

 ”…A Dear Friend to all of us was taken away from us. Words can not express the way we feel…..God chooses only the best…. Blake you will be missed tremendously, but you will never be forgotten. WE LOVE YOU and we will always carry you in our hearts!!!”

“…BURST INTO TEARS MORE THAN I’VE EVER DONE BEFORE. I GOT TO 3RD PERIOD AND WENT TO THE COUNSELOR AND SAW MANY PEOPLE IN THE LIBRARY CRYING FOR YOU. IT WAS AN UNBELIEVABLE SIGHT. YOU WERE LIKE ONE OF THE COOLEST PEOPLE I HAVE EVER MET. EVERYONE LOVED AND CARED FOR YOU AND IT SHOWED WHEN YOU LEFT US…. YOU WOULD ALWAYS KEEP ME AS WELL AS EVERYONE ELSE LAUGHING…I MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU BLAKE!”

 ”With only the short amount of time I knew you, we truly made some awesome memories. You impacted my life greatly. I can’t wait to see you again…Love you always.”

 ”…Why did it have to be Blake? He had so much going for him, and he was the most caring and sweetest guy I knew. ”

 ”…The most genuine smile I have ever seen. ..”

 ”…I can safely say that few things in my life have ever changed me like Blake and my memories of him….”

 ”I ARRIVED AT THE FUNERAL MONDAY AND IT WAS UNBELIEVABLE TO SEE HOW MANY PEOPLE WERE THERE. I SAT DOWN AND SAW THAT THERE WERE NO SEATS LEFT AROUND. MANY PEOPLE WERE STANDING UP.”

 ”…No one can take away any of the memories we’ve all had with you, and we would all give so much to see your smile one last time…No one has forgotten….”

“blake was my friend and i knew him for a long time and he was like a brother to me. …everyone loved him he had a lot of friends and what happened to him on Wednesday, no one will forget it…”

 ”…Blake’s death and Blake himself has taught me so much. I look at life with a new perspective… I try to be like him every day…He would go out of his way to make your day. I admire him so much for being able to ignore people trying to bring him down. He knew who he was and he didn’t feel the need to prove it to anyone…”

 ”…he would share everything he had with me, even when it wasn’t much. He was not your typical child; he was so much more. There was something special about him… ”

 ”You were a wonderful person and a great friend. We are all going to miss you and you will not be forgotten. I am sorry that I only got to know you for a short amount of time. But you still had an impact on my life.”

 ”You were not only my first best friend, my neighbor, you were like my brother!…And all the people that you ever knew and that loved you are here to stand by you even though you are gone. You were such a good person. Always willing to help anyone and everyone. You were never mean, and never talked about people. You had a heart of gold…..I’m going to miss you. I will never forget you…”

 ”…I’m really going to miss you! and all our crazy memories. You were a great friend with a heart of gold. I’m so lucky to have had a friend like you! I’ll always remember you! A piece of you is always with me. I love you.”

 ”EVERYONE READING THIS JUST TRY TO LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST CUZ THAT’S WHAT BLAKE WOULD WANT. That’s how he lived. Of anybody I kno you were the last person that deserved to leave us.”

 ”Blake you were a good person, and an even better friend. You were like a brother to me and I will never forget the fun we had. God Bless”

 ”What a powerful life he must of had. Just think of all the lives he must have touched from just looking at his myspace. And he did it in way less time then most of us have. What if we all lived like that till we died…”

“Blake, man we had a lot of memories, u were my boy, my right hand man. i love u man and i always will…You were a soldier and you led me down a good road. i miss u man…you made your bed and you shall rest in peace.”

 ”Blake, you meant the world to me….I loved u like a brother….”

 ”…Handsome is not enough to say. Kindness and joy just exude from him….”

 ”…He was very caring and so nice….He’s always in my heart because he was a very dear friend to me….”

 ”Blake – If I ever had a son, I would be proud if he were just like you. Love and hugs”

 ”…Sure do miss my XBL buddy no one can ever replace you. Stoping by to say hi and how much i miss you.”

 ”…I still miss you like crazy. You were such an awesome person. I can’t think of a single thing wrong with you… You were perfect. So caring..I would do anything to see that smile again.. I loved that smile… because of you my life has changed so much. I’m honestly happy, and I owe that to you. You’ve taught me to just smile through everything. And laugh the stupid pointless things off. To be more like you…”

“…It is so awesome what Blake’s life meant to so many people…”

“…He was such a good guy. So warm and funny too…He was doing so well – taking college courses at sixteen! God, I was so proud of him…He was so calm and sweet hearted….My heart is just broken….”

“…Blake has taught me so much, both when he was alive and even now. He showed me that life is a gift and no matter what might happen you shouldn’t let it bring you down. ”

“…You were always there. And I never thought that would change. And I’ve known you since I was born. We were best friends.. I’m going to miss you so much. You were never supposed to leave….I love you so much dude…..”

“…i miss you man sooooooo much. there is not a day that goes by without you not being thought of by me. We had so many good times its unbelieveable. i miss you blake…you mean too much to people why did you have to go?”

“I JUST WANT TO LET YOU KNOW I LOVE YOU & MISS YOU SOOO MUCH & PLEASE WAIT FOR ME CAUSE WHEN IT IS MY TIME TO GO, I WANT YOU TO BE THERE FOR ME LIKE YOU WERE ALWAYS THERE FOR ME THROUGH THE ROUGH TIMES IN MY LIFE. EACH DAY WITH YOU WAS A BLESSING NOW I UNDERSTAND WHY THEY SAY YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT YOU HAD UNTIL YOU LOSE IT!!! IM GLAD GOD BROUGHT YOU INTO MY LIFE & YOU SHOWED ME THE WHOLE MEANING OF ‘LOVE’. HONESTLY I DON’T THINK ANYONE CAN FILL YOUR SHOES BLAKE. I PROMISE I WILL LOVE YOU UNTIL MY DYING DAY!!!”

“we all lost an AWESOME friend no one will ever replace him or even try. keep your head up for him he will really appreciate that alot. Love you BLAKE. FOREVER REST IN PEACE!!!!!!!”

“…It is so wonderful to think that Blake touched so many people in a very big way. No wonder God thought he had finished his work here.”

“Everyone had such good times with him. He was EVERYONE’S friend. And no one is going to forget him.”

“… i find it so strange how you could effect so many lives in the way you did….you had this simple warmth to you… …i just wish i could have know you a little longer. you were soooo funny… but chemistry with you was awesome because you were sooo smart.. gosh i really do miss you! you left your mark in my life for sure…”

“…He was such a nice, respectful kid! I liked him right away….When I walked toward him he would start grinning and I couldn’t help but smile…”

“Blake – You were one of the coolest and nicest people…I’ll always remember you dude.”

“I’d also have to say Blake Emory Ingles is my hero too. I look at his life and smile and think to myself look at how many people he affected alone? .I want to be just like him when i’m older! I want to be able to be as good a person as he is! Blake i love you like a brother and may you rest in peace!…”

“Blake, It’s so sad to see you gone. You were a very wonderful person. You will be missed. Love you Blake.

Love always”

“…we were only acquaintances but the times that he was with me and the crew you could tell he was a great guy and he’ll def be missed…I even miss his presence every morning…. The good ones go first…”

“He was the greatest”

“…he was only 16 and he had goals…and not many kids these days have goals…he was just one of those good hearted people that you don’t normally get a chance to meet…but im happy i had the chance to know him…. i really hope its true what everyone says..that he really is in a good place…Blake deserved that , to go to heaven and be happy forever.. i just dont understand why it had to be him.. he had so much to live for…”

“…blake you were my best friend ever and i looked at you like a big brother!!…i knew that i could call and talk to u about anything….when i got to kno u i thought u were the coolest person ever!!..i love u”

“I’M GONNA MISS HIM SO MUCH…I REALLY WISH I COULD HAVE GOT THE CHANCE TO HAVE HIM ON THE TENNIS TEAM THIS YEAR. I LOVE AND MISS BLAKE…”

“….you were, no, ARE the best friend any girl could have. We have so many good memories it’s crazy!… Well I hope you know I love and miss you buddy. You are a great guy. See you again one day in heaven….BFFS for life!”

“…I love you with all my heart. You were like a big brother to me. You were always there for me. You helped me through alot of things and I don’t know how I could have went through it all without you!…”

“…One could only hope to be remembered in such a positive light as Blake has been remembered… A life well lived speaks for itself…”

“HEY BLAKE BABE!!!…U WERE THA COOLEST WHITE DUDE EVER!…DUDE I MISS U BUNCHES AND I LOVE U LOTS… KNOW ULL BE WIT US AT GRADUATION CLASS OF 09 BABY!!…LOVE U BLAKE AND IM MISSING YA…”

“…Really there is no doubt how good of a guy, and how cool he was. What I love the most is that he was that real type of person. He didn’t put on or fake who he was. He didn’t have to act out to impress anyone…”

“…We All Loved Blake. He Was The Type Of Dude That Would Make A Joke About Himself And Laugh With You. Dam I Cant Believe He’s Gone….He Will Always Be Missed.”

“Blake, I watched you grow up to be a young man. I will sadly miss you and you will be in my heart always. Love always”

“…For him to have made such an impact on so many is truly proof that his soul was mature in wisdom beyond his young years… …know that what he was while he was here, was immense and special…”

“…I realize how much I really loved and appreciated you as more than just a friend but as a brother. I will always remember the good times together… I will miss you and never forget you. You were my first friend and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I love you as if I was telling my real brother because that’s what you are to me my brother/guardian angel/best friend

I love and miss you bro”

“…I know he made an impact on so many people it is so obvious. Wow. He led by example…”

“…for all the people who knew and loved Blake Ingles. He was a very nice and cool guy. He might be gone, but he will never be forgotten. He is in everyones heart, and nobody will ever forget this intense loss…”

“Blake has so many wonderful friends. He is described as happy, fun, exciting, handsome, sexy, smart, fair, friendly. A wonderful son to have.”

“…sweet dude / always funny (not trying to be but was) / genuine / nice to me / fun to be around / laid back / really cool”

“He was gorgeous / sexy / free spirited / always smiled / always happy about something”

“…There had to be a truly strong connection between Blake’s soul and God, the kind of giving and caring that comes so easily and qenuinely is not common, but Blake had it…”

“i will cherish every moment spent with you forever…i miss you mi amor. not a day goes by that i don’t think of you & keep you & your family in my prayers…i love you Blake…”

“…he was just an all around GREAT guy and we’re lucky to have known him for the time we did…”

“Blake you were one hell of a Trumpet player. It was an honor to play next to you.”

“…U were a better person and friend than I ever wuz but I will change because u never know when somethin unexpected happens.”

“…I LOVE U SO MUCH MAN! !….You were the best friend anyone could ask.”

“Hey Babe, I may not have been one of your best friends. I know we didn’t talk all the time but I want you to know that I love you and I will never forget those times I had the chance to talk to you. You always put a smile on my face when I saw you. You were such a sweet guy and I want to thank you for letting me be a part of your life. I will never forget you and I will miss you always and forever!!! Missing YOU!!!”

“RIP Blake my favorite White boy.”

“…ITS AMAZING HOW CLOSE WE GOT IN SUCH LITTLE TIME. I FEEL LIKE I’VE KNOWN U FOREVER BUT IM SO LUCKY TO HAVE THE MEMORIES THAT I DO HAVE! BLAKE WE HAD SO MUCH FUN AND LAUGHED WAY TOO MUCH! YOU WERE HONESTLY ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS AND I REMEMBER TELLING YOU THAT A COUPLE OF WEEKS B4. IM SO GLAD YOU LEFT KNOWIN I LOVED YOU. YOU WERE SO CAREFREE AND GIVING. U HAD THE BIGGEST HEART I KNOW AND EVERYONE WHO KNEW U WERE SO LUCKY AND NOTHING CAN TAKE AWAY OUR MEMORIES! BLAKE I DON’T KNOW WHAT IM GOIN TO DO WITHOUT U….UR AN IRREPLACABLE FRIEND AND NO ONE CAN COME CLOSE TO BEING LIKE YOU….YOUR IN MY HEART AND I WILL NEVER EVER FORGET U! BLAKE I LOVE AND MISS YOU!”

“I won’t forget you. Your soul touched me”

“Blake, It’s hard to believe that one of my very good friends is no longer here with me. I love you dearly. You will always remain in my heart, thoughts and prayers. See you in heaven! ”

“Blake, you accepted me as a friend before I did you. You just shocked me with your acceptance and friendship. I think you were a great person and I saw you as a friend. Thank you.”

“…You will not be forgotten in the land of the Cougars

just keep a close eye over us as we try to get through this loss of

not just a friend but as i said before a lil brother

see you soon.”

“I miss u so much. U jus dnt understand. i wish u were here. its so different without u. Y blake y did u have to go…I love u n miss u! it’s so hard in class without u.”

“I didn’t know you very well but when we did talk you were such a wonderful person, so full of life! Your death is a true tragedy and Collegiate won’t be the same without you.”

“Blake, Although I haven’t known you long, I’ll always remember you and will never forget your smile and the cheer you brought to C.H.S. We miss you!”

“I didn’t know you for long, but I knew you long enough to find out who you really were, and we had some fun times. you really will live on through the rest of us, one day we will all have class reunion in heaven”

“…He was such a good friend…I jus can’t believe hes gone. I miss him so much….”

“…i knew blake as well and i know its hard loseing someone who loved everything he ever did.”

“I will miss you! Class of 2009 will not 4get you!

We luv you boo!”

“…Blake will continue to be a great influence in my life…”

“BLAKE, I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU’RE GONE NOW…WE GREW UP TOGETHER SINCE KIDS…WE’VE BEEN GOOD FRIENDS FOREVER…YOU WERE ALWAYS A FUNNY PERSON TO MAKE EVERYONE LAUGH…EVERYONE WILL MISS YOU…”

“Blake you will always be remembered as a cool kat in my books. I hate to see you go this way, man, but there’s a place in my heart where you will always be kept. Much love and God bless. Ur gonna head to a more beautiful place…I know you will. With much love”

“…Blake was such a wonderful kid…He was such a polite, nice kid…Blake grew up into a very nice looking young man…God calls home the best…Blake I know is with God…”

“…My life isn’t that great now, but I think of you and how carefree and lighthearted and how you lived your life, and I try to be just like you…I love you, so much dude, and I miss you just as much if not more!!”

“I’ve never cried so hard for anyone but you blake.

I miss u more than u’ll ever know.”

“Say Blake

You were one of my greatest and most dependable friends I’ve had in my life. I love you and may you rest in peace.”

” you were really exceptional and really funny. You were so nice and always had a smile on. You will be really missed.”

“…i wish you were here but i know you r in spirit u gave a lot of strength bro and i thank you

much luv bro later …”

“…You don’t meet many young people of his age that would go to the lengths to help others like he did. It speaks volumes for his heart and soul….Blake most surely would have made Him (God) proud…. what he was while he was here, was immense and special and should be remembered as special… He did so much in his short life, and made such an impact on others…this is a cherished legacy he left for you to hold onto…”

“…no matter what, no one can take your spot…i miss you blake and can’t wait to see you again i miss u blake…”

“…me & your mom were talking about how much of an impact you had on sooo many people it’s unreal…you fulfilled yourself hunny….you are a legend…”

“One to the Coolest!!!”

“hey blake man i can’t believe it your really gone man when i heard what happened i cried forever…jus wanted to let you know I love you man. me and you go way back to like pre-k…love you forever blake”

“…everyone at the funeral said blake wuz like a brother too man, and so he shall be…we’ll see him again…”

“…you were my true friend, you wre somebody that i considered a brother. we had some fun times…wherever we were we had fun & we made it a party. i jus wanna say that i love you man & im gonna miss you with all my heart”

“…you were a great guy…I’m glad I got to meet you, but I wish I had a chance to get to know you better and I would do anything to have you back here with us….Love ya, man…”

“Blake, We go way back. You were a good friend to me. I will miss you Friend.”

“…yea I enjoy reading what everyone has to say…everyone has there own special memory of him and its amazing how many lives he touched…he was such a wonderful person…”

“Blake, I love you man. i can’t believe your gone. ive known you for so long, since kindergarten. We had so many good times. you and me were so close. i miss you man. growin up wouldnt of been the same without you….”

“Blake, man I only met you this year but you were a good person and did not deserve this. We are all going to miss you and I know your in a better place.”

“BLAKE U WERE DIFFERENT THAN MOST BUT THAT WAS A GOOD THING. U WERE CRAZY AND FUN…I WON’T FORGET U ANY TIME SOON… RIP BLAKE U WILL BE MISSED…”

“…I’m taking this pretty hard and so are a lot of others. You were always so funny and we grew up together…”

“miss you blake….

more than words can explain

ily♥ ”

“…You were the only person I ever cried so hard about that I made myself go numb and almost sick.. Blake, loosing you was one of the worst things that I’ve ever gone through….”

“…We all care deeply for BLAKE and he will live on forever in those hallways and especially in our hearts…I will never forget him…he still remains #1 in my heart & probably will forever. ”

“…im having a boy on the 29th of december and im really excited. His name took alot of debate but i think youll be happy to know the final name he will be given…”

“Hey what up bro. I miss you man. No one will ever be able to replace you…”

“Blake, I love you soooo much, but I know God is right with you…I’m missing you sooooooo much!”

“Blake, I’ll miss that wonderful smile and that hug I’m used to! Love you”

“…I loved him so much. I had known him my whole life. He was always suppose to be there… Blake has impacted my life so much…”

“…WE ALL MISS YOU SOOOOO MUCH BUT WE KNOW YOU ARE IN A BETTER PLACE. I LOVE YOU”

“…Blake has left you all something special, his spirit of love and laughter and understanding of humanity,…”

“…Blake was the kind of person who creates friends of this magnitude and God must be very proud of who Blake was in heart and soul…”

“BLAKE I MISS U MAN I KNOW U CAN’T C THIS BUT U WILL ALWAYS B IN MY HEART (GONE BUT NOT FORGOTTEN)”

“….I miss you so much!…I will never forget. I love you! And I know your in a much better place but it still hurts like hell….”

“i love u so much blakie poo and i miss you like crazy!!!! i just wanted u to kno that i think bout u all the time and everything reminds me of u!!! i also wanna thank u for always bein there for me and i kno that even though ur no longer here in person u will always be here in my heart!!!…”

“I may not have known you long, Blake, and though that is something I missed out on, I thank you and will always remember you for the wonderful, loving person you are.

Your friend always”

“…I miss him so much. He was so cool to hang out with. The night we went to Fiesta he just hung out like anyone else. He fit right in…”

“…Blake and ya’lls family is my inspiration to succeed…”

“Blake, you were and still remain a great friend, brother, son and boyfriend. I know I never told you how much you meant to me but I guess now you know..Please don’t forget any of us cause we won’t forget you….”

“Blake, It’s hard to say goodbye even though I know you’re in a better place. I love you as a brother and you’ll always be in my heart.”

“Blake was a fun-loving, happy kind of guy….The first time we met I thought he’d never talk to me but he was just a genuine guy who loved everyone!

I will always remember and miss Blake Ingles! He was very SPECIAL!”

“Blake, You’ll be dearly missed. I’m never gonna forget you. You will ALWAYS have a special place in my heart. Remember I’ll see you later.”

“Blake we’ll miss you! You’ll always be in our thoughts. You won’t be forgotten. THAT IS A PROMISE. We all love you…”

“i miss you blake….so much

I miss you more than you will ever know…. i love you paco

forever and ever beyond and back”

“Rest In Peace Blake.

You will always be remembered. We will miss you dearly. You are in a better place.”

“…God knows the special ones and when he sees the need he takes them with him before any more bad things happen…”

“…I miss you much, as well as everyone else!…We talk about you all time, about good old times. :] … I ask myself everyday why it had to be you…Your my guardian angel, and I love you so much.

Till next time,

<3

“Blake, You were always a nice guy. Even though I didn’t get a chance to know you that well, I feel like we have been going to school together forever.”

“Still can’t believe your gone. I miss you so much dude. You should be here w/us. We love you.”

“…you were an amazing guy. You were an amazing friend to a lot of people.”

“R.I.P. blake ingles…lost but not forgotten…u will always be in our hearts”

“I miss you Blake…. The second I enter those golden gates I’m giving you the biggest hug you have ever recieved. Only problem right now is I want to give it to you now I wish I could bring you back because life isn’t the same without you. Please don’t forget me. I love you Blake Emory and always will.paco and bob are forever and ever, to no end baby!”

“Blake…I will miss your sweet and innocent smile. Love always”

“ITS BEEN ONE YEAR ,YOU WILL FOREVER BE IN ARE HEARTS AND ALWAYS ON ARE MINDS….. YOU WERE THE SWEETEST AND COOLEST GUY IVE EVER KNOWN AND ILL NEVER EVER FORGET YOU!”

“i have not forgotten you blake,

imy,

wish you were here

im expecting a bby boy in march, hope he becomes just as an amazing son, friend as you were..ily”

“…I LOVE YOU BLAKESTER BUNCHES & I MISS U MORE THAN LIFE ITSELF…”

“…hope you loving it in your mansion in the sky

love you blake”

“wuz happenin blake my man!…man we miss u so so so so so much!”

“We are going to miss u Blake. You were a great person. I know your in a better place man. Love ya”

“…i miss u bra and i aint never goin to forget ya luv ya man…luv ya bra…”

“Hey man life seems to go by slow without you around…. Well I stopped by to say hi to one of the best friends I’ve ever known.”

“…I still think about you everyday…I know your watching me from up there Blake, but you have NO idea how much I wish I could just walk over to your house and give you a hug…. I love you Blake and words can’t express how much I miss you! …”

“…oh how i miss yu so much..its getting so much harder since everythings coming up… yu know ive never really been weak hearted until yu passed… Blake i miss yu and love yu so much….as i embark on my journey through college i will bring yu along with me in my heart…”

“…Not a day goes by i don’t think about you man…love ya, man”

“…i continue my lifes journey in this world with loving memory of blake emory ingles. ..”

“I love you more than you will ever know Blake.”

“Blake, I will miss you so much. You were a really good friend.”

“Hey lil bro hows it goin up there? Man youre missed in so many situations. We all miss you, me, brian, arthur, the other blake. its jus kinda hard without havin you here ”

“…I’ll keep you in my heart forever…”

“…i miss you more than you can ever imagine…”

“I’m sorry he had to leave like that, and I just want you to know that Blake loved you and everyone who made him smile. You were blessed with a smart child and may God comfort you with much love.”

“We are filled with a deep sadness as we mourn Blake’s sudden passing, realizing how much more he is missing from this world with each passing day. But Blake will never be fully gone as his spirit lives on in the hearts. All of us are very lucky and honored to have had a great friend like Blake and it is a shame that he had to leave us. Our world will be a lonlier place without such a great brother, son & friend as Blake Emory Ingles”

“…HE WAS A WONDERFUL PERSON. I MISS HIM SO MUCH…. I LOVE YOU BLAKE!!”

“whatz poppin fam<you kno we still holdin it down in da LM, you will forever have a spot in our hearts.”

“Blake, though we may have only talked a few times, your smile filled the room with joy. Naranjo’s class will never be the same without you. RIP”

“Few of the seniors knew you man. I was one of those few….It was a real honor to have you as a friend. We will all remember you for the good person that you were….”

“…Ima miss you Blake. You was like a Brotha to me.”

“…But I miss you… Can’t tell you how many times I can say that and mean it 100x more…

Love you…”

“…damn we all miss you. It’s so weird that you’re not here, and even though we weren’t extremely close, I know you were an awesome person… It just seems unfair that a good person like you wasn’t able to live as long as others do. We all miss you Blake…”

“…I really miss you man cant wait to talk to you again…”

“…I’m dedicating a blog in your memory as well as my next work of art. I hope you rest in peace.

Goodbye old friend”

“Blake, words can’t express how I feel. You were one of my best friends n I’m going to miss you so much! I can’t imagine life without you and I’ll never 4-get our crazy moments or the last day we spent together. I’ll always remember our silly jokes….

Blake I love you so much and don’t know what ima do without you! R.I.P. (I know you’re in a better place)”

“BLAKE….

YOU’RE STILL STANDING”

“…Because of you I know that life is short, and even though things get tough, you have to keep on living your life with your head held high (like you would do! <3)…”

“…we didnt share as many memories as i would have liked…i will always carry with me the ones i did get.”

“I wont Forget about u Fam ,and I Kno U Dont Forget Us (one love Family)))”

“…And it’s so moving because he’s not just a memory. He is very much alive in Heaven and his spirit is around you all the time…”

“…R.I.P. brotha. We love you so much.”

“…i really love you! im trynna think of some way to really honor you…

but ne ways love u and miss you so much..”

“I’ll never forget you. I promise Blake.”

“…I MISS YOU BUBBA! I MISS YOU SO MUCH! …”

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH BROTHER AND I WISH YOU COULD BE HERE … CANT WAIT TO SEE YOU AGAIN. YOU BETTER SAVE ME A SEAT NEXT TO YOU! LOVE YOU…”

“Thanx 4 being such a great guy!”

“Gone but never 4 gotten. We love u Blake.”

“…GAhhh i miss you. i love you man.”

“The people who loved you will never forget you.”

“…i still haven’t got over it. i wish i could give you a hug…i love you paco…”

“…I always think about Blake. everything i do or think about makes me think about him. he was a big part of my life and I still feel like he is here guiding me through and looking out for me like he has in the past…”

“Blake, you know how much you meant to me. I hope you save me a seat on the other side. I love you with all my heart for the rest of my life.

I love you.”

“…hey man missin you man went by your house the other day and i wanted to say hi till it hit me i cried you wernt there blake man we all miss you buddy…”

“Yea u sho was 1 hellova guy, man i miss nd r.i.p….”

“whats up man, i miss you like crazy.”

“Bee-Ell-Ake-Kay-E

You have no idea how much you will be missed! Love you”

“I MISs YuH BlAKE!!!… eVERYTHING SUCKS BUT YA MISS AND LOVE YA…”

“Love u babe!!”

“Your always in our Hearts Bro.”

“Blake I will never forget you. You were a great person and a great friend. I love you and you’ll be in my heart always.”

“You left us too soon. You will always be in my heart.”

“Man o man Blake

We all miss ya Man.”

“…Man I miss u so much its unreal…”

“You had some great friends who are really gonna miss you man.”

“No matter what you will always be here in spirit…

RIP Blake.”

“…love u n miss u … miss ya hun lovealways…”

“…I love you Blake, still can’t believe your gone either”

“Your still in our hearts and will be forever missed and loved!

RIP Blakey”

“i misss you blake.

=(

i love you and miss you bunches.”

“wish you were here..

ily♥

always & forever …”

“RIP Blake!

Even though you won’t be walking across the stage with us you will be in our hearts. Love ya.”

“Hey man always thinking about you…. Sure do miss you man….”

“HEY BLAKE MAN I JUS WANT TO LET U NO THAT I MIZZ U SOOO MUCH AND I LOVE U I WISH U WAS STILL HERE. ♥ ”

“love you Blake and you will never be forgotten”

“I can’t wait 2 see your face when we meet at the pearly gates.

One Love”

“…WE ALL MISS U MAN…. WE NEVER GONE FORGET U BLAKE!!! I LOVE U MAN…”

“Hey,

Man Blake I miss ya bro and will be thinkin of you so save me a chair. I’ll see you later.”

“RIP Bee Lay Ae Kay Ee

You know who it is dogg. I love you like a brother.”

“…<3 you always and forver Blake!”

“R.I.P Blake

hope to meet you again.

Miss you alot ”

“…I still learn things from you all the time, especially that you should never take people for granted…”

“I’m gonna miss you Blake.

Love you lots. I will never forget you. Love always”

“Our memories of you will never die. R.I.P.”

“…i MiSS YOU DUDE… LOVE YA! ”

“…I miss you!

Wish you were here….”

“…I love you Blake, and I miss you so much…”

“I LUV YA BRO AND I MISS YA

TALK TO YOU LATER BRO”

“whats goin on bro. i miss you like crazy…

man we had some good times. i love you bro. ”

“…even though yu gone yur here in our hearts… jus wanted to say hey i miss yu bro much love ”

“legends get remembered but heros never die. blake was our hero he is what every man should wanna be like. more of him is what this world could use. ♥ forever and always”

　

“… He is a son in a million…”

“i still think about blake all the time and really wish he was still around, he was one of my best friends. him and i would always sit on the phone and talk to eachother about everything and anytime i had any problems he was the only one i could ever really go to. i miss him. i really wish he was here to see my little girls but i know even though he isnt here with us in person that he is still here in spirit watching over us all and making sure we are all okay.”

“…he will alwayz be in all of our hearts…”

“…he always Saw the good in people no matter What.”

“…just by him being him help me in my life. This is why till this day I consider Blake one of the most important people in my life he was more then a best friend.”   (….Wow!….)

This morning, I was reading a book containing short stories. One of them was about a woman who had been in a “life changing” auto accident. Because she lived and my son died, I considered his auto accident the truly “life changing” one. One minute there is life and the next minute there is death. THAT is “life changing.”

So while thinking about that, a book mark that I had never seen before in this book (and I’m almost finished with it and have flipped through it several times before) dropped to the floor. Talk about significiant….Some of the text reads, “Wherever God’s Word is heard, lives change!” and goes on to talk about eternal life.

I decided to change out the book mark from the one with my son’s picture on it that I had been using to the new-found book mark. While putting the prior book mark where I keep extras, a decorative curtain rod with curtains fell down. There is no natural explanation for what happened. They had hung there for years and there was no indication of anything loose, damaged or anything else that might explain how the curtains and rod suddenly fell as I walked into the room.

I really believe it was my son’s way of again telling me that he is not “dead.” (Funny, the story that gave me thought before the one mentioned was about walking through the Valley of the Shadow and of how there can be no shadow without the presence of light.)

Take the case of a girl in school who works for an elective class called School Services. While one student is working hard in a challenging elective class for a real grade, the student working for “School Service” could be looking to brown-nose for brownie points. Using the easy and convenient accessibility to those in charge at the school office, a subtly evil but quiet student in the School Service class is able to take advantage of the listening ears of those in charge of the school.

Sometimes when a student is quiet, he or she is considered a good, innocent student by the busy school administration. When the same student has no friends and has no respect from any of the peers, more than likely the assumption of the faculty will be that the child is being bullied by other students at school in some way.

But what if things are not always as they seem? What if the student, fairly new to the school, is indeed quiet among the adults but behind their backs has made quite a bad reputation for herself among her peers? What if the seemingly good and quiet girl has a filthy, filthy mouth and dishes out verbal abuse to everyone in her path? What if she has become adept at making up lies or twists the slightest thing (or nothing) into a crime against another? What if that student plays the role of a martyr but is really a bully? If the student decides to take the easy School Service elective class, conditions are ripe for a true bully to bring charges against a truly innocent student, exerting power to bully in a different way than most would see or define as bullying.

When a truly good, quiet, and innocent student is railroaded into a suspension from school, which wrecks their flawless school record by a made-up lie/story that changed numerous times (maybe due to the fact, there were lots of witnesses to verify the truth of the matter) while that innocent child, having never been in trouble a day of her life is terrified by the outrageous accusations and outrageously unjust process against her, I consider that bullying.

When the charges brought against the truly good (wouldn’t hurt a fly) student were so horrendous, the rumors could have destroyed her life, I consider the one bringing the false charges (outrageous LIES!) to be a bully.

Alas, this story won’t be seen on the TV news as the latest bullied suicide victim because the potentially severe rumors brought about by the school’s charges could not even be started against my daughter. The real bully, fairly new to the school and looking for easy prey, messed with the wrong person. My daughter may be quiet and low-profile, but she is friends with everyone and is well-liked and respected. The peers know the truth of which is witch and who is who. The teachers probably know by now. Those in administration are hopefully slowly but surely learning some lessons, especially about how things are not always how they seem at first glance. (Although they are still giving the same assembly speeches against the overt signs of obvious bulling behavior.)

Living through her brother’s death and the way the media twisted things up and all else has made my daughter stronger. She’s still standing and standing well. At 12 years of age, she is able to say, “Life isn’t fair,” not as a complaint but as a summation of reality and then moves on to the best of her ability. Unlike the wolf who cries Bully! (or worse) my daughter refuses to fall into the victim role – even when it suits her.

I adore music – almost every type in existence. I love movies or videos too. But I don’t like music videos. Songs that I had loved before seeing it set to a music video are ruined thereafter for me.

How can I describe why this is? Hmmm….

Even without listening to a song’s lyrics, I give the song’s essence my own interpretation…what it means to me, what I feel from it, what it makes me think of when hearing it….When watching the same song set to music, I am spoon-fed a version of what could be totally different than the vision in my head.

Maybe I don’t like to be force-fed someone else’s ideas? Maybe I like to compartmentalize the music from the video backdrop? I don’t know….I do know I love music but don’t like music videos.